as the day winds down i am thinking about how thankful i am for my children....i know today isn't mother's day but in away i feel like everyday is mothers day....what an HONOR to be a mother....truly a gift from God beacause God has allowed me to mother these 3 children....i know they are His children and i am very thankful that He has enough faith in me to do a good job with the children He has blessed me with.
kent & i always wanted 3 kids but we thought afer having natalie that we would not have 3 children....that was until 2009 when God clearly told us He was calling us to adopt....september 21, 2010 we officially became parents of 3 children....thanks God!
i was telling natalie today that when emma lael gets a bit older i'd like to celebrate her birth mom on mother's day also...we could have a special candle...cupcake i'm not sure to celebrate HER! but i want to celebrate her for the gift she has given us.
i have so many questions in my head about this women that i hold a very loving feeling for....i can only image the questions emma lael will have when she's old enough to think about her mom.
i prefer to call her mom...not birth mom...but mom....in my heart emma lael will always have 2 mom's....i am sure some may think that is odd but for me emma lael's birth mom is a part of me...i will never met her but she's still a part of me....she's the women who gave birth to OUR daughter.
i wish i could express myself better in words but i can't...i know how my heart feels and it is very JOYFUL & THANKFUL for my 3 children.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
a perfect day for ME
a perfect day for me is to work in my gardens and yard...yesh, i'm not the type of gal that likes to shop....would much rather play in the dirt ;0) emma lael is my little helper....she takes her bucket and shovel mimics everything i do...she helped me plant 80 plus flowers in my garden ( to deter deer, rabbits and bugs) you guessed it marigolds...i bought her some "garden boots" to match mommies garden boots...hers are much cuter than mine...i only wish i looked this CUTE when i garden....Happy Mother's Day to me!
Friday, May 6, 2011
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
family voice
i copied this and pasted this from another blog...something i felt was worth sharing with others!!!
There’s this thing that I believe every family has. I don’t actually know what to call it. If we were having a conversation, I wouldn’t be able to imitate it.
But I know it when I hear it. I hear it in shopping malls, in crowds, when families get into and out of their homes and cars, at resataurants, and when I’m a guest in someone’s home. I’ve heard it for years in my home. And I have one too.
What is it? This isn’t the scientific name for it at all, but in my head I call it family voice. You know what I’m talking about. It’s the tone of voice you would never use except around the people closest to you. It contains hints of expectation, exasperation, frustration and quiet fatigue. Add in tones of command, whining and a touch of rudeness, and you’ve got family voice. Sometimes it’s strong. Sometimes it’s subtle. But all the time it’s reserved for the people you live with.
If you used it at work, you’d be shunned or maybe even get fired. If you used it in your social circle, you’d have no friends. You’re likely distant enough as a grown adult to not use it on your parents or siblings anymore. Chances are you only pull it out in the square box you inhabit with a handful of other people we call family.
And ultimately, it’s disrespectful. That’s why you would never use it on other people. But somehow on the people we love most we feel free to pull it out regularly. I don’t know why. We just do.
So if you want to increase the level of respect you show for each other at home, try this: eliminate your family voice. I know, it’s hard. Because I’m convinced we don’t even hear it in ourselves anymore after a period of years.
When I catch myself, this is what I do: I pretend my wife and kids are perfect strangers, someone from work, or a friend I haven’t seen in a while.
Why? Because then I would be kind, courteous, charming and engaged.
Which is what they deserve. Every day.
Try it today. Speak to your family as if they weren’t your family. You might be amazed at what happens to the levels of respect and delight in your home. (And let us know how it goes.)
In the meantime, what do you think causes family voice? What makes it worse? What makes it better?
There’s this thing that I believe every family has. I don’t actually know what to call it. If we were having a conversation, I wouldn’t be able to imitate it.
But I know it when I hear it. I hear it in shopping malls, in crowds, when families get into and out of their homes and cars, at resataurants, and when I’m a guest in someone’s home. I’ve heard it for years in my home. And I have one too.
What is it? This isn’t the scientific name for it at all, but in my head I call it family voice. You know what I’m talking about. It’s the tone of voice you would never use except around the people closest to you. It contains hints of expectation, exasperation, frustration and quiet fatigue. Add in tones of command, whining and a touch of rudeness, and you’ve got family voice. Sometimes it’s strong. Sometimes it’s subtle. But all the time it’s reserved for the people you live with.
If you used it at work, you’d be shunned or maybe even get fired. If you used it in your social circle, you’d have no friends. You’re likely distant enough as a grown adult to not use it on your parents or siblings anymore. Chances are you only pull it out in the square box you inhabit with a handful of other people we call family.
And ultimately, it’s disrespectful. That’s why you would never use it on other people. But somehow on the people we love most we feel free to pull it out regularly. I don’t know why. We just do.
So if you want to increase the level of respect you show for each other at home, try this: eliminate your family voice. I know, it’s hard. Because I’m convinced we don’t even hear it in ourselves anymore after a period of years.
When I catch myself, this is what I do: I pretend my wife and kids are perfect strangers, someone from work, or a friend I haven’t seen in a while.
Why? Because then I would be kind, courteous, charming and engaged.
Which is what they deserve. Every day.
Try it today. Speak to your family as if they weren’t your family. You might be amazed at what happens to the levels of respect and delight in your home. (And let us know how it goes.)
In the meantime, what do you think causes family voice? What makes it worse? What makes it better?
Monday, May 2, 2011
Sunday, May 1, 2011
Happy Playing
after many months of trying to find a playground set for emma lael we finally found one...the issue was finding one that she could climb up the stairs on....with her being so tiny it was a bit difficult to find a set she'd be able to climb up on...it was assembled this week and emma lael really enjoys it...i find myself outside all the time and i LOVE it...i am an outside kinda gal ;0) these days my house isn't as picked up as it once was.... i've learned to take on the "who cares"attitude i want to spend as much time with emma lael before she's driving (don't laugh...have you seen the commercial on t.v. when the dad is giving his daughter the car keys and what he sees is a little girl..when in reality she's a teenager) i can relate to that as natalie is now 15.5 and garrett will be 19 this month... kids grow up so fast! i want to cherish every minute with emma lael...looks like i will be spending quit a bit of time outside playing with emma lael on her new playground set, i can't wait!
Thursday, April 28, 2011
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